I’m gonna say it right out—as a woman over 50, I feel less and less desirable, worthy, needed, wanted, and loved, among many other things. So the other day, I wrote out a self-love list of all the things I love about myself, and I’m not kidding when I say it made me feel a million times better.
I think many women over 50 or even midlife women:
- battle low self-esteem, low self-confidence, low self-worth, etc
- we have negative self-talk,
- we have more negative thoughts than positive thoughts
- we tend to withdraw
We have an awful lot of negative emotions (def more negative than positive emotions) and have a hard time being happy or even loving the skin we’re in. Aging is hard and confusing.
I decided to sit down and write out all the things I love about myself to give my self-confidence a much-needed boost.
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When You Write Out Things You Love About Yourself
So this is what happens. It’s a strange and wonderful phenomenon. As you start writing out things you love about yourself, your self-esteem and self-confidence get a major boost, and you may even fall in love with yourself again.
Your heart lights up, and there’s a little fire in your soul again. You start smiling, and suddenly, you feel amazing, whole, and beautiful.
And let’s face it, that’s exactly what you are anyway, and then some!
I think it’s a good idea for you to sit down with a journal and your favorite pen and make your own list of things you love about yourself. Do it as often as you have to.
Read it often.
Now, I’m not saying you need to write out 80 things, but then again, why not? But seriously, you can start with 5 things or 10 things, just start!
What is Love About Myself
While some people may think this is a narcissistic trait, it’s not at all!! It’s important to love and honor yourself because you will be spending the rest of your life with yourself!
How we love ourselves also sets the tone for others. We show people how to treat us, and if we treat ourselves poorly, people will follow suit.
It can be hard to love yourself if you’ve been treated poorly your entire life, but it’s not impossible either!! Start slowly by writing out a list of “things I love about myself,” and then do some positive self-talk affirmations throughout the day to boost your self-confidence.
80 Amazing Things I Love About Myself
Here is my self-love checklist of all the things I love about myself. I could probably add 100 more, but 80 is enough for now!
1 My hair is my crown of glory, and I love it. Always have and always will.
2 I’m almost 2 years smoke-free. I was a smoker for 46 years, and I finally quit that stinking habit on Christmas Day, 2020!
3 I love how nice my smile is. My teeth are really nice and white despite my smoking for so long!
4 How I make people feel. I have a neat way of making people feel really good about themselves!
5 My tattoos. They are so unique and so uplifting.
6 How I light up a room when I walk in. I pride myself on being that bright light all the time. I have been known to be the life of the party sometimes.
7 I don’t judge people. We are all the same, and we all deserve respect.
8 I’m very generous and helpful. I will give you the shirt off my back if you need it.
9 My writing skills. I think I’m a good storyteller.
10 I’m doing my best to take care of my physical health. I try to eat healthily, do intermittent fasting and full-day fasts, go to the gym five days a week, and drink plenty of water.
11 My body is strong. I push her a lot and don’t want my body to get weak.
12 I’m open to trying new things for my skin, health, body, hair, etc. I’ve been opting for more natural things lately and I love the results.
13 I am a good friend. I’m a loyal friend and trustworthy and will do anything for you.
14 I have a really great sense of humor. I love to make people laugh.
15 I’m a good listener. If you need an ear, I’m here.
16 Being a bit of a social butterfly. I love mingling with the locals and learning their language. It’s important to me to learn Spanish so I can communicate with them.
17 I can be somewhat fearless. Flying alone to Guatemala was a huge adventure, and I’m proud of myself for that.
18 I’ve survived a lot of really bad things. And I still have a really positive outlook on life. I’ve moved on past my past.
19 I’m a healer. I help people learn how to forgive and let go so they can move on too.
20 I have warm energy. I really do. People tend to gravitate to me because of that.
21 I am a creator and a good one. I create a lot of content for social media on my Facebook pages, IG account, YouTube and my blogs.
22 I am grateful for all the little things in my life. First thing in the morning, I start my day with gratitude (and good coffee!)
23 I was brave enough to leave my last relationship. It was toxic and abusive and I still can’t believe I found the courage to leave.
24 I’m very trusting of the Universe. I have a lot of faith and I believe things happen the way they should and you shouldn’t try to control it.
25 My collection of healing crystals. I have hundreds, and I love my gemstones so much.
26 I’m open-minded. I will try almost anything once. I listen to different viewpoints and ideas with an open mind
27 I can be chatty Cathy. Sometimes I love a good fun random conversation about anything!
28 I know I’m a good person. I do good things and have good morals and integrity.
29 There’s a special place in my heart for street dogs. I’m on a mission now to build a dog sanctuary here in Guatemala for the street dogs.
30 I can think for myself. I listen to my own voice of reason and make my own decisions.
31 I take care of my mental health. Healing is very important to me.
32 I don’t let bad days turn into bad weeks or months. I honor my feelings and let it go.
33 I think I’m a good singer. Though I could be wrong here…haha!
34 I like to cook. I’m not a great cook, but I like trying new things.
35 I have a fairly healthy positive body image. I’m not perfect but for 60 I’m doing ok and like the way I look.
36 I’m an honest person. Almost to a fault, but that’s ok.
37 I let people be themselves. I actually encourage it!! Be yourself!
38 I’m accepting of other races. I don’t care what your skin colour is, as long as you are a good person that’s all that matters to me.
39 I spread optimism and joy. As much as I can, wherever and whenever I can.
40 I have a pleasing personality. I’m generally very friendly and cheery.
41 I work on self-love daily. I think it’s important to love and honor yourself as much as you can.
42 I love writing. Being creative also means writing. Each and every blog post is written from experience and my heart.
43 I’m very authentic. I love showing my true self and not afraid to do so.
44 I’m a good mom. We didn’t always have it easy but I did my best.
45 I’m super naive. Which can be frustrating but also a blessing.
46 I love meeting new people. And listening to their life stories and their dreams.
47 I’m very spiritual. Kindness is my religion.
48 I love everyone. I just spread love and tell all my friends I love them all the time. The world needs more love.
49 I always push out of my comfort zone. I tackle scary things head-on.
50 I listen to my inner voice or my intuition. If something feels off, it’s off.
51 I say a prayer at the end of the day. I always close out my day in prayer and gratitude
52 I don’t mind asking for help. I’m the first with my hand up for help!
53 I’m not intimidated by more successful people. I am proud of them and cheer them on.
54 I am a hard worker. I work 7 days a week, sometimes up to 10 hours a day, creating content and inspiring people.
55 I love helping people. I want everyone to succeed and have a happy life.
56 I’m a good Angel Card reader. And I love love love doing readings.
57 I’m very intuitive. It’s almost scary to be honest.
58 I love my eyes. I think they are warm and loving. They say the eyes are the windows to the soul
59 I create awesome products, courses and eBooks. There is great value in all the things I create for people.
60 I’m getting more tech-savvy. I’ve come a long way and had to learn a lot of things about blogging, but I did it!
61 I try to live in the present moment and not worry about tomorrow. Worry is a waste of time anyway
62 If a family member needs help, I do my best to be there for them. Though that’s sometimes hard as I live in Guatemala and my family is in Canada.
63 I look for positive things each day. Not every day is a good day, but I try to find the good no matter what
64 I love traveling to new places. I love new experiences, new food, new environment, all of it!!
65 I’m really good at making inspirational quotes. My Facebook pages and IG accounts are all quotes, and I love sharing them with others.
66 I like the way I dress. I love my fashion sense and I think it’s says ‘authentic and real!’
67 Music makes my heart sing. Hahaha. I listen to music on my earbuds while I’m driving my scooter around town, and I usually sing too!
68 I learned how to drive a scooter. This was a scary thing for me to do, but I did it, and now I own one!
69 I’m more patient now than ever. Though some days it may not feel like it, I def have more patience now.
70 I’m passionate about saving and helping dogs. It’s my #1 passion right now, and I won’t stop until we have a sanctuary here.
71 I believe in my dreams. And I do what I have to do to realize them, and even if it takes a long time, I don’t care.
72 I use positive affirmations daily. Every day, I still do this, whether I read them off my whiteboard or just whisper them to myself.
73 I love hugging. I think I’m the best hugger in the land.
74 I can be goofy. Life doesn’t have to be serious all the time, so I love being silly and goofy.
75 I use faith to help me get through tough times. I don’t let them get me down.
76 My gratitude list is super important to me. If I forget to write it out in the morning, I feel off the rest of the day. I know, weird, but true.
77 I have healthy relationships with my family and my friends. It’s important to me to have only loving people around me
78 I really like me. Like. I think I’m a good person, a great friend, and a wonderful human being overall.
79 I know my weaknesses. And I work on them to understand them and make myself stronger.
80 I am worthy of love and good things. I know I deserve all the good the Universe wants to give me.
What’s The Thing You Love Most About Yourself
I hope that my list of the things I love about myself has given you some inspiration and ideas for writing your own list.
Get out a pen and paper and start writing your list! After you’re done, go back and read it when you feel sad or worthless.
I have always said that writing anything is very therapeutic and can help with letting go of toxic thoughts and feelings that we tend to hold up inside. Write it out and let them go!!
xo iva xo
Iva Ursano
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Iva Ursano is a solo female traveler originally from Canada and currently residing in Guatemala. After hitting rock bottom in 2013, she completely reinvented her life at 52 years old, packed up two suitcases, and bought a one-way ticket to Central America. She runs this website for women over 50 to help them make the rest of their lives the best of their lives while feeding street dogs and helping the less fortunate in the town she now calls home, Panajachel. You can follow her on Pinterest, Facebook, and Instagram (Street Dogs of Guatemala)
